Achievement of the day.

Today, achievement is managed to get him to tell me a question I’ve asked and cooling him down in a short period of time.

This morning when I send my son to school, the teacher after checking his hands and mouth, try to stop him from taking the torchlight away. He usual would take it and off the torchlight and put it on the table as a routine.

My son got angry, and end up he throw the torchlight across the hallway, luckily no one was hurt. I have to get him to pick up and put on the table and walk to his class. When he enter the class, he went to pick up a pencil case and step hardly on it. I try to stop him, he pick it up a few times wanting to throw it across the hallway again. I managed to stop him, pull him near me, and ask him who’s pencil case is this. After asking a few times, he mumbled “Cheng Hao, ……pencil case” 

After, I had to calm him down and say don’t be angry and it is not nice to throw things and especially not your things. Gave him lots of hugs until finally cool down and back to himself and send me out the gate(routine). My son just dislike this classmate of his, as this classmate love to disturb him, like pushing him from the back when he is doing something, kick him during toy snatching and take a toy/ book when he was not watching. Yes, I saw it with my own eyes that this classmate did them to him. So I do understand why my son choose this classmate pencil case and did what he did when he got angry, but then, this classmate did nothing of that sort today which is the problem.

More help and work need to be done for my son not to do that and i hope he get it and understand soon. He is already six, it would be hard to make friends if he dont learn to social fast. While me, as a Mother would always be worried on his development progress and his social interaction with people is my major concern.

My son was diagnose with Mild ASD when he was 3 years old, however, I know of his special needs since he was 2. Yes, he have some challenges but I believe he will learn to behave in public when he grow older. He is given ABA therapy to cope with his tantrums which had affected daily lifestyle and since has help a lot. Now he is six and would required speech therapy as he is not willing to express his emotion freely and interaction via communication with people is affecting in his school environment.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/AutismSpectrumDisorderSingaporePG/

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When Valentine's Day is over...

Yesterday was Valentine's Day, it was also Chinese Lunar 7th day of the New Year. In the Chinese saying it is the birth of mankind, so the Chinese celebrate this day and some treat it as Chinese Valentine's day where you celebrate the birth of yourself and your loved ones.

Valentine's day has been fully commercialize in today's world. Couples are expected to celebrate widely their love of one another, while some take this opportunity to propose for marriage. However, Valentine's day(VD) is only a day in 365 days of the year. If you love one another, everyday would be a VD. Would you want everyday to be full of pain and hurt and have a great wonderful day on VD with the person you loved? I believe NO. Yet some people would expect the lavishing gifts, candlelight meals, flowers and maybe music for this so called special day. For me, I would rather have my loved one, loved me whenever he can, give me a treat or two when we are having a celebration. Not show me how he love me because it is VD.

If he love me, he would show me daily, without the need of any gifts. He is able to love me as I am, and still love me on things that he dont like about me. I guess, that is enough to me. So if you dont receive anything on VD, it's alright. Think about it, does it mean he love you less? Does he not show his love for you on any other days? try to self check, out of 365 days, how many days does he show his love for you. That my friend is what you should measure.

Enjoy every moment, every day with the one you love. And hope they love you too, not hurting you.

Advice from lyric of an old song.

An old song that I love, most of the time during then, I dont understand the meaning of the song since I was too young to really know what it means.

After all this year, I realize that the song lyric had gave some good advice on life. Today, I realize that no matter what happen in your life, it just a path, a story that you live in....

I try to simple the lyric for easy understanding as it is originally a Chinese song..

Towards life, you don’t need to be doubtful.   Life, on it own, is originally be expected to be like a movie.  Ending of the story, is it sad or is it unhappy, you, yourself will be the final decision to it.

Looking at dawn, it raise with Hope.  Footprints of the day have no waiting, till the stars and moon enter your dream, life would become more beautiful. 

In work, how much unfairness came across, let’s make use of tomorrow to forget about it. In the journey, there’s always a lot of unjustified came upon, turn to bits and pieces, let them be forgotten in your memories.

I cannot forget the lost that happen in my past, but I need to face myself. In Future, how should I go upon and replace, I will fight for it everywhere.

In the moonlight, buried away the emotion, It make people lost in the chapter of their movie. Brew a cup of coffee, quiet down your busy path and let me tell you my story.

From this song, i understand that no matter what happen to you in your life, it is you who decide if it has been a sad or happy ending. After years has passed, it is like a movie that needs to have ups and downs. or it would not be called a life.

Be your own judge if you have live a full life with pits and falls. or a quiet smooth life that no one would want to know about?

Relationship

The start of a relationship is full of wonders, every moments shared is beautiful and every thoughts of your lover make life so sweet. Cherish every moments and experience together looking forward each day for a greater time tomorrow. But have a clear mind once a while and ensure that you are not being fooled by your own thoughts, over expect what the future would bring and destroy your moments. Enjoy every moments in the present and be sure that the lover is the one. You know you are both going somewhere together when you can say anything without care comfortably and knowing that you won't be offending the other.

Many times we are fools by our desired and passion that have make believe things that are not, this jeopardize our relationship and putting pressure on our lover. And in the end, suffer the consequences of ending a good relation. Tell what you feel and not pretend to love everything that he/she love as in the end it would cause hurt and distrust. If you are not suitable for one other, have a good chat, maybe you can compromise to make it work. Give it time and thoughts, if it don't work out, it's better to split then worn both of you further. One side will need to be sensible to make it right. A lot of people stuck together for too long and even though there's been being lots of unhappiness they still end up with each other. They are so used to one other that they don't want to leave,  sometimes couples like this argued and grow old together. Some unlucky one don't, they usually end up splitting. while the unfortunate one, force themselves to stay together even after knowing the other party having an affair.  

It would be easier when both have similar passion like hobbies, lifestyle, background and culture. Otherwise, it would be a great challenge but we have heard a lot of great successful stories of couples living till old age from different religion and races. One can never imagine how much love and compromise that they need to go through to make it work. I empathy those who are married by matchmaking and had suffered. While I also honour the fact that people I know grow to be in love till the end. Understanding, compromise and forgiveness comes along with your initial passionate love to keep it going and staying together. 

May all relations comes out fruitful. May those that yet to have a relationship, find a great someone tomorrow.

Thoughts after watching....Walter Mitty

Life is full of mystery and secret that need us to understand and discover. We may be lost, down and miserable, but it is through these paths that we learn and shape what we are today to face challenges for tomorrow. Giving up may not be a choice than maybe take a step back and take a break. Clear your mind, then pick yourself up and be ready to fight your best what comes your way. Sometime when the brain is at rest it would help to find you a solution or idea.

If you are at dead end and needed help, why not talk to a friend? And when they can offered help, great. If they may not be able to help, it's ok, telling someone of what you feel may make everything seems differently and no longer a big deal. We only have this lifetime to do what's right and fight for. Why not do it whatever you have, all the way till you die of old age.